I recently received a Facebook inbox from a friend who is a couple of years older than me. She was worried about her age, she felt like people of her age are married, and have houses and kids; and that she cannot even maintain herself. This is how I replied:
SWEETY, IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO START. YOU WILL BE ABSOLUTELY FINE IF YOU WORK HARD FROM NOW ONWARDS. WHAT I CAN TELL YOU IS TO AVOID PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR. IN FACT, AVOID ANY PROLONGED EXPOSURE TO SOMETHING OR SOMEONE WHO IS BAD FOR YOU OR YOUR FUTURE. YES, YOUR PEERS ARE MARRIED, WITH HOUSES AND KIDS BUT DOES THAT NECESSARILY MEAN IT’S THE BEST THING FOR THEM RIGHT NOW? I HARDLY EVER GO WITH PEOPLE’S DEFINITION OF WHAT IS RIGHT; I DO WHATEVER MAKES ME HAPPY. SO SHUT OUT ALL THE NOISE FROM THE WORLD, DIG DEEP INTO WHAT REALLY MAKES YOU HAPPY AND RATHER FOCUS ON THAT. SOMETIMES YOU DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO EVEN YOUR OWN MOTHER, FRIENDS OR BOYFRIEND; HAPPINESS IS A VERY PERSONAL THING TO FIGURE OUT. OFTEN YOU ARE ONLY AS HAPPY AS THOSE AROUND YOU, BUT LET’S FACE IT, ONLY FEW PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD KNOW WHAT TRUE AND GENUINE HAPPINESS IS. THEREFORE DO NOT COMPROMISE YOUR HAPPINESS, YOU MIGHT GROW INTO A BITTER PERSON AS TIME GOES BY, AND YOU WILL ALWAYS TRY TO FIND SOMEONE/SOMETHING TO BLAME (E.G. YOUR CHILDHOOD, THE ECONOMY). WHEN THE SO-CALLED “MID-AGE LIFE CRISIS” APPROACHES, IT WOULD LEAVE YOU RELATIVELY LESS DEVASTATED IF YOU CONSTRUCTED YOUR LIFE’S FOUNDATION BY YOUR OWN DEFINITIONS OF WHAT IS HAPPINESS, LOVE AND SUCCESS. AND BY THE WAY, RUSHED AND/OR UNINFORMED DECISIONS RARELY END WELL.
